I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Ignatieff blames Liberals for family break ups

1-888-F4J Canada

Press release

Contact: Kris Titus Phone: 1-888-345-2262 ext. 704


For Immediate Release December 10, 2008

Ignatieff blames Liberals for family break ups
Fathers 4 Justice Canada is hoping his 2002 book, the Rights Revolution, gives some insight into the man who now leads the Liberal Party in the House of Commons.
With statements like, "As a father, I find it hard not to be pained by the statistics of modern fatherhood and divorce in Canada: Mothers get custody in 86% cases, and more than 40% of children in Canada's divorced families see their fathers only once a month."
"These are sensible and overdue suggestions, and the fact that they're being made shows that men and women are struggling to correct the rights revolution, so that equality works for everyone," in reference to custody and access being replaced by shared parenting after the 1998 For the Sake of the Children report.
He goes on to say that the Liberals must shoulder some of the blame for family break up and they must 'face up to their responsibilities'.
"We couldn't agree more," says Kris Titus, National Coordinator for Fathers 4 Justice Canada. "Mr. Ignatieff and Mr. Harper may just provide the perfect balance to finally help Canada's children of divorce who are suffering so badly without both their parents."
A Fathers 4 Justice member who attended candidate debates during the election says Michael reaffirmed this stand when he asked him if his opinions had changed on shared parenting since his book to which Mr. Ignatieff replied, "No".
" My question obviously prompted him to remember the pain he felt about his children and after the meeting he came over to me and thanked me for asking the question," says the Fathers 4 Justice supporter in is report to F4J Head Office.
Fathers 4 Justice Canada has many supporters who reside in Mr. Ignatieff's riding.
"Oh yes, he can expect some kind of meeting invitation from us," says Titus, "We don't like lip service from politicians as Mr. Layton could attest."
The group has an entire section devoted to Ignatieff on their website at: http://www.fathers-4-justice-canada.ca/content.asp?DocId=16
CONTACT: Nationally, Kris Titus 1-888-F4J Canada
( 1-888-345-2262 ) ext. 704

National Website for more information about Fathers 4 Justice Canada: www.f4jcanada.ca

National Action website: www.f4jcanada.com

Canadian military casualties in Afghanistan and-the resilience of modern Canadians

The following is an essay on casualties Canada has suffered in foreign wars. Most of the war casualties are men fighting for the freedom of all genders. You will not find one feminist in the casualty list. We did lose our first female in combat in Afghanistan that I have discussed previously in this blog. She was a remarkable and brave person whose memory our nation cherishes. She was buried in our Nation's Capital with great honour to her memory, family and country. When you read about a certain degree of queasiness in the media on our 100 brave soldiers who have died keep in mind our strong and resilient history of aiding the cause of freedom around the world. Our presence in Afghanistan is not because it is a Dubya Bush war but because it was a failed state spawning terrorists who made a first strike on a NATO ally. How far off would it be for us if we did not come to the aid of a friend but rather looked weak and appeasing as Jack Layton would have us appear.
Canadian military casualties in Afghanistan and-the resilience of modern Canadians- What have we become as a nation? Some interesting perspectives
by Jeremy Swanson
Ottawa So far this year (at this writing in October, 2008), Canada has suffered 25 Military casualties in Afghanistan. A total of 116 dead (as of March 20/09) over 6 years since 2002 . Consider and contrast this with at least 24 Canadians murdered on 9/11 in 40 minutes Our WW2 losses on D-Day alone: ( just 8 hours of battle ) 340 killed 574 wounded 47 taken prisoner In the Normandy Battle Area of France where fighting raged through the month of June into July and August 1944 5,002 Canadians were killed in action accounting for over 70 Canadian soldiers killed in action every single day of the battles that took place there. In the Italian Campaign. 5,900 Dead and 19,500 Wounded in Sicily and Italy 10 July 1943 to 2nd May 1945 - 660 days of battle (approximately 10 KIA on average per day = 300 dead per month 562 Canadians dead in Sicily alone in 26 days of fighting = 22 Canadians Killed per day 164 Canadians Killed in 12 hours at the Lamone River Crossing In 20 days at the Lamone and Senia River Crossings over 2nd to the 22nd Dec 1944, the number of Canadians killed in action totalled 548 = 28 per day In the East 291 Canadian soldiers were killed at Hong Kong within one week from 18th to the 25th December in 1941 An average rate of 42 men KIA every day of the battle. (another 260 died as Prisoners of War from 1942-45. Yup 260 in three years. As against 100 current Afghanistan casualties in 6 years . But then that generation was something else altogether n'est pas? Our WW1 losses in France just in two battles in 1915 and 1917 alone 250 dead per day at Passchendaele (from 26th October to 15th November= 5,000 KIA and 10,000 wounded.) 1,000 dead per day = 2,000 dead 4,000 wounded in 2 days Battle of Ypres 1915, 1.200 dead per day = 3.598 dead and 10,000 wounded in 3 days Battle of Vimy Ridge April 9th to 12th In Korea- Days in action from Feb 1951 to July 1953 = 880 days in action in country 516 Canadians KIA 1,550 wounded And, to date in 2008, Toronto's- nearly 60 homicides- the bulk, according to Police, gang-related. Before the year is out Canada will see over 600 murders from province to province, coast to coast territory to territory (the normal average is around 620) Also before the year is out, over 650 Canadians will die in road accidents. Over 2000 Canadian Men will commit suicide in 2008. Most of them as a result of "family law" related court decisions Some perspective eh? What does this all tell us about what have become as a nation? I leave that to the reader to decide. Jeremy Swanson

Barbara Kay of the national Post counters Michael "Iggy" Ignatieff on Domestic Violence

A slander on Canadian men

Barbara Kay, National Post

Published: Wednesday, December 10, 2008


What kind of leader will Michael Ignatieff be? It's a question that popped into my head when he cranked out a communique last week about domestic violence. It was the sort of pro forma statement most of the media ignored. But I didn't. Last week, I used the occasion of the 19th anniversary of the Ecole Polytechnique massacre to challenge the feminist movement's anti-male orthodoxies and bogus "statistics," which have swollen the government-funded coffers of women's projects at the expense of truth and men's rights. Normally I'd wait a while before tackling the subject again. But when a possible future prime minister of Canada puts his name to scare-mongering nonsense, for no other discernible reason than to curry favour with one identity group at another's expense, I feel compelled to write a follow-up. Marking the 19th annual commemoration of the Ecole Polytechnique massacre, Mr. Ignatieff issued a statement commiserating with the 14 female victims' families. Well and good. Not well and good was the lily-gilding statement, "Even today, nearly one in three Canadian women are victims of spousal abuse." This oft-cited figure is a myth, fabricated from whole ideological cloth. If true, the epidemic social pathology it represents would render Canada as dysfunctional as Darfur. Millions of Canadian women would be roaming the streets with broken bones. Here are the facts Mr. Ignatieff's staff could not be bothered to research: The five-year incidence of spousal assault victimization reported by women in a recent StatsCan survey was 8% for women, 7% for men. It is not reported whether, as is likely, many of the victims were also perpetrators, since half of intimate partner violence (IPV) is reciprocal. For severe violence, the annual reported figures are 2.6% for men and 4.2% for women. Unilateral spousal "battering" is fairly rare. In a U. S. national survey of men and women touched by IPV, only 6% of married women cited unprovoked abuse by their husbands against 10% of men reporting the same by their wives. Why, on the subject of IPV, do our political and cultural elites so stubbornly cling to obvious absurdities in the face of this transparent, authoritative and readily available information to the contrary? The persistent stereotyping of IPV as a male pathology would seem to be a form of mass hysteria -- not personal emotional breakdown, but rather hysteria in its viral sense of mass popular self-deception. How is the hysteria spread? By false statements such as those in Mr. Ignatieff's press release. The misandric myths perpetrated by the "white ribbon" industry have terrible consequences. Falsely accused men are routinely driven from their homes, torn from their children's lives, languish in jail and a frighteningly high number are even harassed to suicide. That is because our legal system panders to the mass hysteria that Mr. Ignatieff, in thrall, like so many other pusillanimous politicians, to a handful of virulently anti-male ideologues, has indicated he will be complicit in promoting. When leaders can't remedy social ills, or even apply themselves to understanding their actual causes -- and IPV is indeed a social ill in need of realistic treatment, not scapegoating -- they should at least refrain from adding to the problem. There are important words Mr. Ignatieff needs to say to the literally millions of blameless fellow men his ignorance and bias have slandered: "I was wrong. I'm sorry." If he doesn't have the courage to do so, I would hope that Canadian men and fair-minded Canadian women will remember his cowardly silence, as I will, when next they go to the polls. bkay@videotron.ca

Political Punditry in the Globe & Mail with respect to Jeffrey Simpson’s column December 10, 08 defending Bob Rae

In this era of nuclear politics in Canada the Liberals now have the leader to prevent mutually assured destruction.

With Dion (I'm weak and need the other lefties to prop me up) he had to take the desperate measure of aligning with Taliban Jack (I'm no corporate lackey) Layton whose lust for power is hidden just beneath the used car salesman smile lines on his face. To allow a separatist party, albeit as the apologists continue to remind us - legal - to hold the balance of power is naive in the extreme and a sell out of Canadian nation building at its worst.

Rae was, according to the real history in the Province of Ontario, the worst fiscal manager since confederation and an ideologue to the end. That he is now a convert to his cousins the liberals causes me concern about his motives. He, of course, could never be Prime Minister, in the NDP (no dads party) and is perhaps just an opportunist. That he is articulate, funny, a good public jouster and affable is immaterial when wanting to get the top job in a party who believes itself to be our matriarch for running the country. The persona he wants us to see has been crafted over many years in the public eye, some of it stormy.

Iggy will move the Liberals back to the centre where they need to be to challenge the conservatives who are doing a good job at managing this country but need the counterbalance that a centrist can provide. Harper sees in Iggy a person who is his equal and should he fail to listen carefully knows full well he may be "toast" sooner than later.

Thus we have nuclear equality in terms of leadership and we ought not to pass through the fail safe zone as we almost did over the past two weeks.

Now we the people need to demand they work hard - together - to get us through this fiscal crisis and help proud, dignified, hard working men and women preserve their livelihood and create the environment for getting back to work if they have already lost their jobs.

Mike Murphy

From Wednesday's Globe and Mail

Canadian politics will now mostly revolve around two cerebral, distant leaders: Stephen Harper and Michael Ignatieff. Warm, and fuzzy they are not; smart they are.

There, the similarities stop. We will now have Mr. Harper, the economist, versus Mr. Ignatieff, the humanist. A political lifer versus a relative newcomer. A leader who had barely been out of Canada before becoming prime minister versus someone who had barely been in Canada before returning in 2005. A man with a sharp ideological edge versus someone of centrist preferences. A fierce partisan who has trained himself to view almost everything through a political prism versus an intellectual who must now curb his instinct to view issues in the round.

Of Mr. Harper, Canadians now know plenty; of Mr. Ignatieff, they know little. A Liberal Party leadership contest might have provided windows into Mr. Ignatieff, but those windows never opened.

Instead, because Bob Rae correctly read the inescapable signs of his defeat and departed the leadership campaign yesterday, Mr. Ignatieff will be anointed leader without a contest, debate or clash of ideas. He didn't even have to give a major speech. Instead, the leadership fell into his lap, a testament to his tightening grip on the party and to the luck of circumstances.

Five years ago, he was teaching at Harvard; within days, he will be leader of the Opposition.

Had the Liberals proceeded with their plans to hold a leadership convention in Vancouver in May, Mr. Ignatieff would likely still have won. But, as the events of recent days have shown once again, a week is a long time in politics, and five months can be an eternity.

The political drama of last week, however, changed Liberal calculations. The urgency of ridding the party of Stéphane Dion coupled with the apparent need for someone credible to lead them through the weeks ahead propelled Mr. Ignatieff forward as the candidate of whom the party asked: Why wait for spring? Why not do it now?

Defeat was conceded graciously by Mr. Rae, who stilled his privately expressed anger at the fates that had brought his friend and rival to the leadership, instead of himself.

Mr. Rae is a proud man, with much to be proud of, and it was a terrible blow to that pride not just to concede but to have found himself in a position of such relative weakness that he could not even put up a successful fight.

Like Macbeth's “horrible shadow,” Mr. Rae could not escape the reality and mythologies of his years as the NDP premier of Ontario. They have stuck to him and tormented his political career as a Liberal. Even outside Ontario, where Liberals and others had not experienced those years, the telling of the province's travails, and those of his government, spread across the land, seeping into the common (if potted) wisdom of what actually happened and why.

Mr. Rae was, therefore, the candidate with the record, much of it admirable and politically saleable but for that “shadow” from which, however unfairly, there seemed no escape – whereas Mr. Ignatieff, by virtue of having been away from Canada for so long, had a long record all right, but one forged in writing and commenting on more worldly matters than the merits of saving a Northern Ontario paper mill.

Mr. Ignatieff must steer his bedraggled party through the perils of the coming weeks, holding out the prospect of the coalition his predecessor negotiated (and which he supported) while preparing his party (and the country) for the Liberals' eventual exit from that unhappy strategy.

Once the budget is passed, as it will be, Mr. Ignatieff will face an array of internal challenges – squeezing a better performance from a talent-challenged caucus, revamping the party's fundraising, producing a coherent long-term vision for the country – while keeping up a steady attack on Mr. Harper's government and trying to become someone Canadians might actually like.

A Liberal revival must begin with one simple, difficult rule: unity. Mr. Harper earned unity and enforces it with iron discipline. Mr. Ignatieff will have it only if Liberals reflect on the fact that they have been intermittently tearing themselves apart since 1984, when John Turner defeated Jean Chrétien and the loser never reconciled himself to defeat.

TV Newscast Highlights False Domestic Violence Allegations

RADAR ALERT: TV Newscast Highlights False DV Allegations
Monday, December 8, 2008
Around the country, groups are working to stop false allegations of domestic violence. Now the mainstream media are beginning to highlight the devastating impact of such claims. Recently WCVB-TV, the ABC affiliate in Boston, Mass. ran a newscast highlighting two men whose girlfriends obtained domestic violence restraining orders. The orders had been issued without any evidence of abuse. When it came time for the final hearing, the women didn't bother to show up and the orders expired. But the men's names were permanently entered into the state Domestic Violence Registry. As a result, one man had his employment application denied. He commented, "I was guilty from the moment this person walked in and filed that order." The segment also quotes a representative of the Massachusetts domestic violence coalition who notes restraining orders can be "misused," and admits, "I think it's a problem." The 4-minute, must-see segment can be viewed here: http://www.thebostonchannel.com/video/18047516/index.html To RADAR's knowledge, this is the best-ever TV coverage of the problem of false allegations. TAKE ACTION NOW: We encourage every person who reads this Alert to view the newscast and forward the URL to your media contacts, elected officials, and others. Emphasize that the nation's domestic violence system has spun out of control, and we need to reform the Violence Against Women Act. Each year 2-3 million restraining orders are issued, half of which don't involve even an allegation of violence. RADAR has released 10 recommendations designed to curb false allegations of domestic violence: http://www.mediaradar.org/alert20081020.php. Date of RADAR Release: December 8, 2008 Want to improve the chance that they'll pay attention to your letter? Click here. R.A.D.A.R. – Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting – is a non-profit, non-partisan organization of men and women working to improve the effectiveness of our nation's approach to solving domestic violence. http://www.mediaradar.org.

Domestic Violence Experts: Research Has Discredited the Woman-as-Victim/Man-as-Perp DV Model

“Men account for half of all DV victims and incur a third of DV-related injuries. Ignoring female-on-male violence inhibits our efforts to combat domestic violence.”

John Hamel, LCSW, a court-certified batterer treatment provider and author of the book Gender-Inclusive Treatment of Intimate Partner Abuse

“Half of violent relationships were reciprocally violent. In non-reciprocally violent relationships, women were the perpetrators in more than 70% of the cases

Dr. Daniel J. Whitaker of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, describing a 2007 study published in the American Journal of Public Health

"Every time we tried to say that women's intimate partner abuse is different than men's, the evidence did not support it."

Dr. Jennifer Langhinrichsen-Rohling of the University of South Alabama

"My independent research as to gender and domestic violence reveals that women use all forms of domestic violence at least as frequently as do men and with very similar effects on male victims."

“A meta-analytic review of 552 domestic violence studies published in the Psychological Bulletin found that 38% of the physical injuries in heterosexual domestic assaults are suffered by men.”

Dr. Donald Dutton, UBC author of Rethinking Domestic Violence

"Both boys and girls who observe their mothers engaging in violence toward her partners tend to use more violence in their romantic relationships. Moreover, such girls are more likely to be aggressive with their peers."

Psychology Professor Marlene Moretti of Simon Fraser University BC

"I have conducted surveys of nationally representative samples of American families funded by the National Institutes of Health in 1975, 1985, and 1992.

"In 2006 I conducted a study of partner violence in 32 nations. In all of these studies, the rate of men victimized by physical and psychological attacks by their partners is about the same as the rate of women victimized by male partners..."Physical attacks by women account for about a third of the injuries."

Murray A. Straus, Professor of Sociology and Co-Director Family Research Laboratory University of New Hampshire:

"When men with children try to access domestic violence services and are turned away, we deny their children services and put them in danger. There is an unknown quantity of children...who cannot find the services they need to escape their violent mothers, and therefore, they must remain in their homes. Thus, by discriminating against male victims of domestic violence, we are also discriminating against their children and putting both the father and his children at risk. It is imperative, then, to assure that male victims and their children can get access to domestic violence services."

Denise A. Hines, Ph.D. of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire:

"It's mandated that I have the Duluth Domestic Violence Power & Control Wheel prominently displayed in the office where I provide batterers' treatment classes. I do, but with one minor modification -- I drew a circle around it and a line going through it."

[In the Duluth theoretical framework, domestic violence is caused by a patriarchal society that sanctions violence by men against their female partners. Women are assumed to be either victims or, when they are found to aggress against their male partners, to be doing so in self-defense.]

Claudia Ann Dias, MSC, JD Batterers' Treatment Provider:

“A recent study [published in the journal Violence and Victims] analyzed data originally obtained through the National Violence Against Women Survey in the mid-90s…[which was] a study which was designed, conducted and analyzed by feminist researchers. “Researchers looked at 10,000 respondents who were currently married, and found that adult women are just as controlling and jealous towards their male partners as the other way around. “They also found that the relationship between use of control and jealousy and physical violence existed equally for both male and female respondents, and that ‘intimate terrorists’ can be either male or female.”

John Hamel, LCSW, a court-certified batterer treatment provider and author of the book Gender-Inclusive Treatment of Intimate Partner Abuse:

"The domestic violence establishment--of which I was once very much a part--has distorted the research to minimize and ignore female and mutual domestic violence."

Dr. Donald Dutton, UBC Author of Rethinking Domestic Violence:

California State Long Beach University professor Martin Fiebert maintains an online bibliography summarizing 219 scholarly investigations, with an aggregate sample size exceeding 220,000, which concludes "women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners."

"Research shows that domestic violence is actually more common in lesbian relationships than in heterosexual relationships."

Dr. Donald Dutton, UBC Author of Rethinking Domestic Violence

"According to the [female] victims themselves, the majority of these cases did indeed involve mutual abuse and, and some featured a dominant female perpetrator whose [male] partner was arrested after fighting back. This clinical data contradicted much of what I had been taught, and led me to conduct an extensive review of the research literature. What I found more than corroborated my clinical findings."

John Hamel, LCSW, a court-certified batterer treatment provider and author of the book Gender-Inclusive Treatment of Intimate Partner Abuse:

'Domestic Violence Is a Serious Problem for both Women and Men' "California domestic violence laws violate men's rights because they provide state funding only for women and their children who use shelters and other programs, a state appeals court has ruled. "The decision by the Third District Court of Appeal in Sacramento requires the programs to be available to male as well as female victims of domestic violence...

New California Appeal Court Ruling

"Justice Fred Morrison said in Tuesday's 3-0 ruling, the state acknowledges that 'domestic violence is a serious problem for both women and men.'"

(San Francisco Chronicle, 10/16/08)

"Domestic violence 'research' has been misleading, in that data has been extracted from crime reports and/or 'crime victim surveys – in which men underreport more than women – and have been publicized as indicating domestic violence is a gender issue (male-perpetrator/female-victims). In fact, when larger surveys with representative samples are examined, perpetration of domestic violence perpetration is slightly more common for females..."

Dr. Donald Dutton, UBC Author of Rethinking Domestic Violence:

"The real horror is the continued status of battered men as the 'missing persons' of the problem. Male victims do not count and are not counted...

"Federal funds typically pass to a state coalition against or to a branch of a state agency designated to deal with violence against women.

"Thirty years ago battered women had no place to go and no place to turn for help and assistance. Today, there are places to go—more than 1,800 shelters, and many agencies to which to turn. For men, there still is no place to go and no one to whom to turn."

Richard James Gelles, PhD, Director for the Center for Research on Youth & Social Policy

"Under current policy abused men are both denied services and told, essentially, that they don’t even exist. Ignoring male victims is not only a human rights issue, but also a public health issue. Until all perpetrators of family violence are held accountable for their actions, regardless of gender, our efforts will be limited, with serious implications for future generations."

John Hamel, LCSW, a court-certified batterer treatment provider and author of the book Gender-Inclusive Treatment of Intimate Partner Abuse:

"I interviewed women in battered women's shelters and wondered why some were leaving in less than a week. The answer, it turned out, is that they too were engaging in violence against their partners, and in some cases had left to pick up the battle again. We weren't helping these women because [by ignoring their role in DV] we were ignoring their paradigm

Dr. Jennifer Langhinrichsen-Rohling of the University of South Alabama:

"The majority of mainstream researchers are now acknowledging the gender-inclusive nature of intimate partner abuse."

John Hamel, LCSW, a court-certified batterer treatment provider and author of the book Gender-Inclusive Treatment of Intimate Partner Abuse: